Because its different with life.

“Life isn't meant to be easy, it’s meant to be LIVED..sometimes happy, other times rough. But with every up and down you learn lessons that make you strong.”



Love is a funny thing. You expect it to be easy. A world of roses and laughs and perfect moments that you find only in movies. You expect him to always say the right thing, and always know exactly how you feel, or exactly how to react to it. You expect her to calm you down when you’re yelling or to chase you when you run away. You expect so much that you feel entirely, and utterly defeated when something doesn't exactly match up with all your plans.
But that’s the thing.
Love isn’t a plan. It doesn’t have a certain beginning and it certainly has no end or visible finish line to those deeply in it. Love happens; and it is so incredibly messy. People around you can’t comprehend why you do the things you do, or why you fight so hard for something that seems to cause you so much pain, because simply, they can’t see. They can’t see the invisible ring of insanity that surrounds you when you’re in love. It’s inconvenient and painful and devastating at times, but we can’t live without it. We can’t breathe the same way or function quite right without it.
Love isn’t her calming you down when you yell. It’s her yelling, just as loud, just as hard, right back at you, right in your face to wake you up and to keep you grounded. It isn’t him bringing you roses everyday or pretty things that make your relationship appear more presentable. It’s after a long fight, that drains the life and bones right out of you both, and yet him showing up at your door the next morning anyway. It’s not him saying all the right things or knowing exactly how to handle you. We are human beings. We don’t handle one another, and we can’t be handled. We are mutable creatures that need something different everyday. Need something more or less to keep us going, to keep us believing that it’s not all for nothing. So no, it’s not him caressing your hair and telling you everything is going to be all right. It’s him standing there, admitting he’s just as scared as you are.
You have to remember that with love, you’re not the only one involved. You’ve unknowingly put your life, your heart into the palms of another persons hands and said, " here. Do what you will. Mash it into mince meat. Or forget I ever handed it to you. As long as you have it." That’s the thing about love.
It makes us crazy. It makes reality invisible and it erases all the lines that we shouldn’t cross. Because love isn’t about fencing ourselves in; feeling safe, feeling sure about the future. It’s about scaring the shit out of every nerve in our body, but pushing forward anyway. Because all the fighting and all the tears and all the uncertainty is worth it. And it’s a hell of a lot better, than being 100% happy without someone to show us that there is a world of a difference between feeling ‘happy’ and feeling whole.

Sometimes you meet certain people that can touch your soul in certain ways most people can’t. (And more often than always, we confuse respect with love for them) But you have to let them go because you have to realize that it just isn't the best time in your life for them to come.

You will have to let go.
And in this process, that pain you feel: that’s life. The confusion and fear: that’s there to remind you that somewhere out there is something (or someone ;) ) better and that is worth fighting for.

I know life can be so hard. It can beat you down, it can spit in your face, it can do just about anything, and yet you can’t do a thing to prevent it. The things about life that I’ve learned is that you’re going to get hurt. You’re going to have emotional nights and cry yourself to sleep for hours. You’re going to suffer some kind of heartbreak, some kind of loss.  But I guarantee that one day you will smile again. You will wake up in the morning, and not have to fight the urge to cry anymore. Yes, it can take a while.. weeks, months, maybe even years. But you will get there, I promise you that.
You will have those moments where you heal. Those moments will be the best.
You'd feel like you're smiling for the first time again. You'd feel like you’re alive again. Life will just kind of restart.

There’s a point in your life when you know who stays forever and who’s just around for a while. People change, but so do you. Sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. Bad things happen to everyone, you’re not in it alone. People lie and some people just don’t care how you feel. Your heart beats no matter how much pain you’re in. Everything will be okay eventually. There are always people in your life that just make your day no matter the miles.

If someone acts like they don’t care about you it’s because they don’t care about you. Don’t waste your time making excuses for them. Just move on.

Don’t worry; you are not alone in this world
My heart like yours was broken too
I remember it wasn’t that long ago
When the man I loved broke it on two
At first I felt lie I would die
And I thought I will not be able to move on
But after some time had passed me by
I realized the pain somehow was gone
Now the wounds he created are already healing
But back then, juts like you, I thought they will never mend
Right now it may be hard for you to believe me
But you’ll find out it’s true in the end
For now you will find it impossible to forget
But after some time your heart will learn to let go
You might think you will never get over him
But you will someday, I know...

'Cz I love you.. I do :)

Why are you crying, a young boy asked his Mom? 
“Because I’m a woman,” she told him.

“I don’t understand,” he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said, 
“And you never will, but that’s O.K
.”…
Later the little boy asked his father, 
“Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?”. 
“All women cry for no reason,” was all his Dad could say…

The little boy grew up and became a man, 
still wondering why women cry. 

Finally he put in a call to God and when God got back to him, he asked “God, why do women cry so easily?” 

GOD answered….

“When I made woman, 
I decided she had to be special.  I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet, made her arms gentle enough to give comfort…

I gave her the inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times will come even from her own children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going and take care of her family and friends, even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all 
circumstances. Even when her child has hurt her badly.

She has the very special power to make a child’s boo-boo feel better and 
to quell a teenager’s anxieties and fears.

I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults 
and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but 
sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him 
unfalteringly.

For all of this hard work, 
I also gave her a tear to shed. It is hers to use 
whenever needed and it is her only weakness…

You see my son,” said God, “the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.
(Adapted)

So when you see her cry, tell her how much you love her, and all she does for everyone,and even though she may still cry, you will have made her heart feel good.


Mots!
(Yep, strangely, thats what I call my Mum :) )
I never thought I’d hear myself saying this, but THANK YOU. Because if you hadn’t been there, I never would have learned that my worst day could also have been my best. Because it was you who taught me that when a heart breaks, it also opens; and once a heart opens any number of things can happen, and some of them can be wonderful. I’m glad. You are one of those beautiful things that happened to my life and made my life worthwhile.

Yes, today, i accept, that I LOVE TO IRRITATE YOU! The way those eyebrows rise in suspicion when I force you out of the room, oh boy! Something inside me goes all evil..  ;)
Your constant nagging about GUYS, the way you think I'm going out with ALL the guys I talk to. You instantaneous 'CID' instincts. Your random comments, your -'sucking-to-the-core driving skills'... EVERYTHING about you is just so, unique!

There is no one else in the world quite like you. You are special. There never has been and there never will be anyone like you again.  
So, you listen, please be careful with your life… there is someone out there that cannot imagine living without you. 
Thank you for being part of my life.

Happy Mother’s day to all the moms in the world :)

Super-woman.

A strong woman works out every day to keep her body in shape,
but a woman of strength kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape.

A strong woman isn’t afraid of anything,
but a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of her fear.

A strong woman won’t let anyone get the best of her,
but a woman of strength gives the best of her to everyone.

A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future,
a woman of strength realizes life’s mistakes can also be God’s blessings and capitalizes on them.

A strong woman walks sure-footedly,
but a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls.

A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face,
but a woman of strength wears grace.

A strong woman has faith that she is strong enough for the journey ,
but a woman of strength has faith that it is in the journey that she will become strong.

A strong woman is one who gets her heart broken time and time again and still has the strength to gather the pieces to create a new life for herself.


Maybe you don’t like your job, maybe you didn’t get enough sleep, maybe 'someone' doest realize your worth.Well, nobody likes their job, nobody got enough sleep, its their naivety that they're lossing on you. Maybe you just had the worst day of your life, but you know, there’s no escape and there’s no excuse, so just suck it up and be nice. Don’t let a bad day make you feel like you have  bad life. Without bad days, how would you be able to know what a good day is like? You have to believe that when things are bad, YOU can change them. So be grateful about your bad day, it means that a good day is just around the corner.
Com’on SMILE :)
Remember that no matter what pain you’ve been through, tears will dry, broken hearts will heal, and somewhere out there, the person who truly cares, is waiting.
You’re a woman and you are strong.
You're someone's SUPER-WOMAN :)

The one that got away.

Dear you,


I’ve tried to block your memory to protect me from the pain, pretend I never knew you, and never heard your name. But the walls aren’t strong enough and I fight my tears in vain. The feeling comes creeping through and the hurt is still the same. I wish I could forget you, or make you see me now. The pain will ease in time, and though I know it’s over and what we had is gone, the memories will live forever in a corner of my mind.


We got some real good memories with each other. There are things I hold close to my heart, and know I’ll cherish always, because they were times spent with you. Maybe it wasn’t all wonderful, but what is? I had tears, yes, but that’s okay, because I had you; I had laughs; I had love.
Maybe we weren’t meant to be together forever. But I thank God daily that he put you in my life, and made you mean something to me…everything to me. Even if it wasn’t forever.
And if ever you look back on times we had, I hope you smile.

I miss the way you told me you really loved me, but that’s what happens when a couple breaks up; the love fades, and you have to get used to not hearing, ‘I miss you,’ or ‘I love you,’ anymore. And the rest of your days are spent on trying to let go, or trying to move on. Or convincing that still hopeful heart of yours, that there isn’t a chance left in the world that you’ll both end up being together again. Then you have to face the heartache that comes with the thought of your love being with someone else, and realize your chances of ever being with them again are getting more and more thinner each day. 
Yes, this has all already happened. But you know what, I still miss you sometimes.


You’re probably thinking I’ve forgotten all about you by now, but that’s far from it. I have missed you every waking day and my heart still hurts, but I’m getting better. I continue to smile and still go on without you. I know I have missed you, but I have kept it all inside of me, only for me to know. I still wonder about your doings, how you are, what you’re doing, what we used to talk about, to the laugh in your voice. Just, everything. I miss it all. However, I feel that the parting of us was for the best, because everything happens for a reason. Should destiny put us into a crossing road in the future, that is when I will see you again. Until then, remember this; No matter what, even through the screaming fights, the disagreements, mistakes and the tears we’ve cried; though I saw this as a possible outcome, I took the risk and gave you my all. Never, ever, did I give up on you. Do not give up on yourself. Believe. Anything is possible. And if you ever need a helping hand, do not hesitate to ask. I may be far away, but I will always be in reach.
I miss you.




Its so hard to lose the one you love. To finally have to say goodbye. You try to be strong but the pain keeps holding on. 
And all that you can do is cry..
Deep within your heart, you know its time to move on,
When the fairy tale you once knew is gone..
-Blaque


In another life, I'd make you stay...
(Listen  ^-^)

Don't give up on LOVE.

“Dear Heart, I’m sorry, but I once again fell for someone that doesn’t like me back..you can feel free to break anytime now. This time, I’m ready for it…”


Love shouldn’t hurt they say, but then again every rule has an exemption, because with some people, it does. Sometimes I wish I didn’t feel the word everyone is making a big fuss about, so then I wouldn’t get hurt. Love is the deepest pain I’ve ever felt in my entire life and believe me it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. Half the time you’d just be crying the other half wiping the tears and in between those a few smiles. I myself used to think that when you’re in love, you’d hear the birds singing but the only thing I heard was the hollow echo in my being. I thought the sky would turn blue but it turned gray and rained on me. I thought that my eyes would be sparkling with joy but it only glistened with the tears.

Why do we have to love someone who could never love us back and why do we dream when we know that those we have woven will cease to be but a dream? I’m not saying that love is a bad thing, it never is. What’s bad is when you fall in love and the person does not fall in love back.


“Now here it comes, the hardest part of all 
Unchain my heart that’s holding on 
How do I start to live my life alone? 
Guess I’m just learning, 
Learning the art of letting go.”

 I was not born to insist myself to someone who doesn’t want me…I give LOVE, yes I do. In fact I easily fall for someone who makes me feel SPECIAL..But when I sense that the person is starting to get rid of me? I WON’T WASTE my time..I WON’T WAIT for them to neglect my presence..
“ LOVE don’t fade easily, but i can contradict my feelings just to make sure i won’t look STUPID”   

Somebody told me once "If someone acts like they don’t care about you it’s because they don’t care about you. Don’t waste your time making excuses for them. Just move on."
So, I will let go.
Let go of the pain. The sadness. The tears.
But I will hold on to the good memories.
Though I will let go of you.
To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain. Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving.
Letting go is growing up.
To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.


" I wish that someday I could be in love again without having to shed a single tear and I wish that if I do, love would not hurt as bad." 
                                                                                 - adapted

S.T.R.O.N.G.E.R

” All along your life, people come and go. Some hurt you, some make you smile, but each one of them leaves something of theirs with us, for us. The new lessons they teach us, the new aspects of life they show us, making us better equipped to face the world..
Making us S.T.R.O.N.G.E.R.”

I can’t say I’m proud of my life, but I can say I’m proud that I’ve learned. I’ve learned that I can’t rely on everyone, but I can’t expect everyone to hurt me either. I know some things don’t work out, but I know everything that has, has been for the better. I can’t guarantee I’ll be able to walk around with a smile, but I know where I’ve been and where i’m going. i know who I am and who my friends are. I’ve had some tough stuff thrown at me, but I've gotten by. I’m not one to complain so I’ll keep trying and in the end, I’ll know I did my best.

Unhesitatingly I can claim that I have learned and so, I HAVE GROWN.

I would suggest, try doing it.And then after a while, you would learn that you don’t need anyone else in order to survive. No one is ever going to always be there, no matter what they say or what they promise. You just gotta suck it up,accept it and keep moving on. 

After all that I've been through, one thing I know is that I’m not going to spend my life chasing people. You want to leave? Fine then, go ahead. Because I’m done with chasing and caring for people who never had interest in me. Nothing lasts and people change. I’ve learned love is hard and life isn’t always what you want it to be.

You may feel alone when you’re lying in bed, or cry yourself to sleep. But always remember that your heart belongs to someone you’re yet to meet…and someday, you will be loved. :D
 

Undying hope

There’s a point in your life when you know who stays forever and who’s just around for a while. People change, but so do you. Sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. Bad things happen to everyone, you’re not in it alone. People lie and some people just don’t care how you feel. Your heart beats no matter how much pain you’re in.

You just have to remember that everything will be okay eventually.

There are always people in your life that just make your day no matter the miles. I know all about distance, I’ve been dealing with it too, so don’t tell me it’s easy, but it’s worth it. I’d rather stay in touch with the people I love than just drop it and forget about it. You don’t forget about the ones you love, it doesn't work like that. Give it all you got, and live your life to the fullest. People would kill to have what you have.

Someone always has it worse off than you, but that doesn’t mean your pain doesn’t count.
We have to deal with pain to find happiness. We have to deal with pain to find us. We become stronger with each bad day, bad relationship, bad past,  just everything bad.  We can make it all better in the end just by learning from it all. Challenges are what makes us who we are. The people that I've lost, the things that I've learned, I wouldn't be the same without them.

"When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate..  And when life is bitter, say thank you and GROW.."'Cause you know what! People change. Promises break.Tragedies happen. What are you going to do? Give up? Quit?
NO.I realize now that when your heart breaks, you gotta fight like hell to make sure you're still alive... Because you are!
And that pain you feel, that's life.. :D

Heartfelt...

This blog goes out to all of the people who have been broken but have been strong enough to let go. For the people who have hurt so badly that they felt they could never love again, but kept their head up. For those who feel going back to their old lover would put all the pieces back where they belong and everything would fit, but accept the cold hard truth instead. For the people that learn from their mistakes and never stop moving forward, even when they take two steps back. For the people that wish loneliness wasn’t a part of them, but put up with it anyhow. For the people that are okay with taking up all of the room in the bed, even if sometimes it feels a little empty. For the people who wake up in the morning with no missed calls, but smile anyway. For the people that periodically miss the past, but are so much more excited for the future. For the people that have wounds still healing. For the people that have so much tied to their past relationship, but break those chains to start fresh. For the people that want to look back so badly, but focus on the road ahead. For the people that pick up the phone so tempted to call, but keep their dignity in tact instead. For the people that never wanted to let go, but had to. For the people that still believe in love even after all of the hurt their heart has endured.
For all the people that gave up not because they were weak, but because most times it’s better just to let go.

We’ll get our happy ending someday. :)